Do You Feel Like a Failure?

One of the most common fallacies individuals believe is that they must reach specific milestones by a certain age.

When you compare yourself to others in your circle, you might be inspired by their success and achieve heights you never thought possible.

Contrarily, it's also easy to feel small when you're bombarded with photographs of talented people on social media, showcasing the skills they've honed through decades of practice.

Feeling like a failure is easy because society has created a certain image of success.

Marriage before thirty…
Kids in the mid-thirties…
Owning a home before the forties…
Having a decent car as soon as you get a job…

This isn’t a success. It’s an achievement.

Those are tangible goals.

What society doesn’t talk about openly is mental health issues.
What society doesn’t talk about openly is personal goals and expectations.

We live in the same society, so it makes no sense in cursing.

However, it’s imperative to live a life devoid of complaints and mental pressure.

If you’ve ever felt like a failure, remember this:

Age has nothing to do with achievements

Young individuals who are just beginning their adult lives are particularly vulnerable to feeling like a failure.

This is due to the fact that they have gone through the educational system, which is focused on meeting and exceeding expectations.

When you consider their upbringing, it is not unexpected that they continue to have this comparison attitude with their classmates, forgetting that they are grownups with the ability to make their own decisions and that they are not required to follow a framework in order to be deemed successful.

Unwritten rules, and imaginary pressures exists everywhere.

For example, people who haven't lost their virginity by their late teens may feel stigmatised in Western society.

Keep in mind that many of these achievements expected ofrom you may wait until you are ready.

Age has nothing to do achievements.

Achievements don’t define you. But your self-perception does.

So, don’t belittle yourself or feel ashamed if you’re late in achieving tangible goals.

Just, focus on your inner calm.

You don’t need to know everything

This sort of advise is not limited to twenty-somethings.

There are plenty of individuals in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and older who look at their lives and believe that they should be further along as a result of their experience.

The pressure to be more mature and to have life ‘figured out' increases with age, creating a sense of being a failure.

You are not required to grasp your mission. Figuring out life as it goes is part of the “joy of living.”

Reading about people like JK Rowling and Colonel Sanders finding success 'late in their careers' is a bit of a cliché in self-improvement literature, but it is also true in real life.

These illustrations teach that you don’t need to have figured out everything.

Sometimes, time, and destiny teaches you everything.

You are exactly where you should be

Keep in mind that when you claim to be behind schedule, you are making a misleading assertion.

“Feeling like a failure or lagging behind' indicates that there is an official measure of where you are expected to be and what you are supposed to achieve by a certain age.

You feel left out because you see yourself in the light of your peers beginning families, careers, and homes.

But life is not one size fits all.

There are no rules carved in stone that says you MUST have these things.

You may have heard the expression "life is not a sprint," or "life is a marathon," but both these statements are wrong.

The reason is they portray life as a contest.

While in reality, life is more like a series of personal bests in which you carve your own way.

You'll never feel alone when you live like this.

Your accomplishments are determined by the activities in which you invest your time and effort.

You are exactly where you should be. If you had focused on family, or perhaps a home, you would have acquired it. But your aim was different than the rest.

If your aim is different how can you be in a race with others!

So, don’t judge yourself based on what others think of you.

Parting thoughts

So the next time you find yourself thinking like a failure or lagging behind:

Take a deep breath and realise that it’s untrue. My success cant be measured by anyone’s metrics.

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Lots of Love,

Darshak

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