No one is going to value you more than you value yourself. One has to understand this & have a copy of this written in their cognition. Nobody outside you can make you feel good, feel content in the long haul. One should value themselves be it physically, mentally, financially, professionally and on all levels like their life depends on it and try to never let the guard down on themselves. We can't sell ourselves short at any point of time.
As Naval Ravikant said-Today, the way we think you get peace is by resolving all your external problems, but there are unlimited external problems. So, the only way to actually get peace on the inside is by giving up this idea of problems.
There is no point where you will be done solving external problems. Once you fix one, another appears. One should also come to terms that Peace is an internal state (peace from mind), not an external circumstance.
As Blaise Pascal also said- All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. This is just a sentence comprised of about 15 words stringed but the weight of this single sentence is quite heavy. I don't think so many people can do this and on the other hand feel okay. Nothing means even no meditation because see & observe what your monkey mind is doing and how it is creating stories about almost every thing.
All of life revolves on Impermanence and the only certainty is Uncertainty in life. People will come into your life be it your parents, siblings, friends from your childhood, relatives or be it who so ever they are and one day they will go. Some will die, some will outgrow you, some will be outgrown by you, with some you will have tussle, some will seem to be quite toxic & who over power, some will go in one or the other way. Who is left the, YOU. You have to have a pretty good relationship with yourself or I would try to say to have the best relationship with yourself.
When an individual thrives, the ripple effect gets shown in other people's lives as well as they uplift them.
For the last 4-5 years, I have understood nobody in general is by your side 100% of the time, so be present & try to be at peace with your own self. We can't feel our lives void with going to movies with others, going on vacations and coming back and feeling the same emptiness because one is looking for the solutions in the outside environment where as one needs to look within and talk to themselves about what they really want and what trade offs they can be at peace in the long term. Stop looking for solutions on the outside and always try to invert, all of life thrives on Extreme Ownership & being brutally honest with our own selves.
This is why the overnight and protracted isolation I experienced when the world shut down from the pandemic was one of the most liberating, cleansing and relief inducing moments of my life. It’s why I constantly surround myself with silence and solitude. And why I disappear so abruptly. Because once I tasted it… I can’t go back. More importantly, I won’t go back. 🤓🤩🥰
I feel like this line: "But it leads to the only thing that matters: You." is misleading in the sense that we are not necessarily the "end goal" unless we are perhaps trying to raise up or enhance the individuated self. I can't say anything against a general mental detox, but as a goal? That aim is pretty low and self-serving, unless I'm misunderstanding the aim here. The author of course wraps the article on a powerful resonant note, but I'm hoping there would be another goal beyond just pushing everything away that I think is not "me" and ending up in a void that's just waiting to be filled by something "else". Thanks for the exploration; I stumbled on this article from a commentary that was written on it on Facebook.
I needed to hear this. It’s something I always believed as a teen, but I was too scared to say out loud, that we’re living and breathing someone else’s beliefs and thoughts. I questioned everything.
I remember hearing the late Sir Ken Robinson say, “All kids are born artists,” but by the time they start school and make their way into middle school, their creativity is often lost. They no longer know who they are.
I saw this happen to my daughter when she was very young. She was highly gifted in the arts, only to begin losing her confidence because her uniqueness wasn’t seen as value - it was seen as disruption.
So we homeschooled, and that helped set her back on her path.
My podcast is exactly about what you’re saying - listening to our core. Valuing our gifts.
We all have a calling. No system can tell us who we are. No one can tell us who to be.
But we have to listen inward and go from there.
It’s hard to avoid the noise. But when you align yourself with the right people and the right environment, you can only go inward and forward.
When I do similar processes, before clearer thoughts emerge, I have really intrusive thoughts that seem to drop in from nowhere. The intensity of these thoughts is always light. I've come to learn that these thoughts serve two purposes: 1) The ego's last attempt to hook me back into a negative thought loop, and 2) A great opportunity to be and practice being the observer.
A masterpiece of awareness-building . Thank you for opening that room for usage .
No one is going to value you more than you value yourself. One has to understand this & have a copy of this written in their cognition. Nobody outside you can make you feel good, feel content in the long haul. One should value themselves be it physically, mentally, financially, professionally and on all levels like their life depends on it and try to never let the guard down on themselves. We can't sell ourselves short at any point of time.
As Naval Ravikant said-Today, the way we think you get peace is by resolving all your external problems, but there are unlimited external problems. So, the only way to actually get peace on the inside is by giving up this idea of problems.
There is no point where you will be done solving external problems. Once you fix one, another appears. One should also come to terms that Peace is an internal state (peace from mind), not an external circumstance.
As Blaise Pascal also said- All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. This is just a sentence comprised of about 15 words stringed but the weight of this single sentence is quite heavy. I don't think so many people can do this and on the other hand feel okay. Nothing means even no meditation because see & observe what your monkey mind is doing and how it is creating stories about almost every thing.
All of life revolves on Impermanence and the only certainty is Uncertainty in life. People will come into your life be it your parents, siblings, friends from your childhood, relatives or be it who so ever they are and one day they will go. Some will die, some will outgrow you, some will be outgrown by you, with some you will have tussle, some will seem to be quite toxic & who over power, some will go in one or the other way. Who is left the, YOU. You have to have a pretty good relationship with yourself or I would try to say to have the best relationship with yourself.
When an individual thrives, the ripple effect gets shown in other people's lives as well as they uplift them.
For the last 4-5 years, I have understood nobody in general is by your side 100% of the time, so be present & try to be at peace with your own self. We can't feel our lives void with going to movies with others, going on vacations and coming back and feeling the same emptiness because one is looking for the solutions in the outside environment where as one needs to look within and talk to themselves about what they really want and what trade offs they can be at peace in the long term. Stop looking for solutions on the outside and always try to invert, all of life thrives on Extreme Ownership & being brutally honest with our own selves.
This is why the overnight and protracted isolation I experienced when the world shut down from the pandemic was one of the most liberating, cleansing and relief inducing moments of my life. It’s why I constantly surround myself with silence and solitude. And why I disappear so abruptly. Because once I tasted it… I can’t go back. More importantly, I won’t go back. 🤓🤩🥰
Bravo, friend!
Oh my! What a thought-provoking piece. Thank you for highlighting what we tend to overlook yet has a massive impact on or being...
Anxiety works the same way as electro shock "therapy".
1) Your house burns down while you are out of the country.
2) Two days later you get the news
3) You start feaking out.
It isn't the house burning down that caused you to freak out. If it were, the moment it caught fire you would have started freaking out.
But you didn't know.
It was the thought that caused you to feeak out, not the action of your house burning down.
Now imagine all of the above occurred, except your house didn't acutally burn down....
Albert Ellis. RAT
I feel like this line: "But it leads to the only thing that matters: You." is misleading in the sense that we are not necessarily the "end goal" unless we are perhaps trying to raise up or enhance the individuated self. I can't say anything against a general mental detox, but as a goal? That aim is pretty low and self-serving, unless I'm misunderstanding the aim here. The author of course wraps the article on a powerful resonant note, but I'm hoping there would be another goal beyond just pushing everything away that I think is not "me" and ending up in a void that's just waiting to be filled by something "else". Thanks for the exploration; I stumbled on this article from a commentary that was written on it on Facebook.
Thank you Darshak for sharing this
Yes a masterpiece
Nothing is ever what it seems! That is my technique and it works.
I needed to hear this. It’s something I always believed as a teen, but I was too scared to say out loud, that we’re living and breathing someone else’s beliefs and thoughts. I questioned everything.
I remember hearing the late Sir Ken Robinson say, “All kids are born artists,” but by the time they start school and make their way into middle school, their creativity is often lost. They no longer know who they are.
I saw this happen to my daughter when she was very young. She was highly gifted in the arts, only to begin losing her confidence because her uniqueness wasn’t seen as value - it was seen as disruption.
So we homeschooled, and that helped set her back on her path.
My podcast is exactly about what you’re saying - listening to our core. Valuing our gifts.
We all have a calling. No system can tell us who we are. No one can tell us who to be.
But we have to listen inward and go from there.
It’s hard to avoid the noise. But when you align yourself with the right people and the right environment, you can only go inward and forward.
THIS!
People won't see your worth if you don't see it first.
Superb!
Thank you so very much
Will go through this again and again 🧡
When I do similar processes, before clearer thoughts emerge, I have really intrusive thoughts that seem to drop in from nowhere. The intensity of these thoughts is always light. I've come to learn that these thoughts serve two purposes: 1) The ego's last attempt to hook me back into a negative thought loop, and 2) A great opportunity to be and practice being the observer.
Thank you for your insight.